How to Make Decisions When You Feel Stuck
There’s something deceptively “basic” about decisions—until you’re in the swirl, stuck between options, and suddenly your brain feels like a browser with 47 tabs open. In this episode, we talk about why not deciding is still a decision, and how limbo quietly drains your energy, your clarity, and your forward momentum. We share real stories (from relationships to Facebook Marketplace “manifesting portals”) that show how powerful it can be to simply choose—because a decision opens the next door.
We also break decision-making down into a six-part process you can actually use: identify what you’re truly deciding, gather data, consider alternatives, weigh both logic and emotion, choose and act, then review what happened so you can learn. Along the way, we name the real stuff that influences our choices—fear, old patterns, external voices “chirping” in our ears, authority figures, and the difference between intuition and avoidance. If you’ve been stuck, overthinking, or waiting for certainty before you move, let this be your reminder: the magic isn’t in knowing everything—it’s in choosing a direction and letting clarity meet you on the other side.
“Limbo is the real purgatory—your heart can’t move if your feet are in two different timelines.”
In this episode, we cover:
00:00 — The swirl of indecision Mariah shares her personal story of staying in limbo for years.
04:09 — The energy of choosing Why a single decision can open the next right door.
05:51 — Monique’s split-second marriage decision Following intuition without hesitation.
07:55 — What are you not deciding? How mental clutter forms when decisions are avoided.
15:55 — The role of emotions, biases, and group dynamics Wedding planning, family influence, and how external voices cloud intuition.
27:44 — Fear vs. intuition Learning to distinguish survival instinct from inner knowing.
34:12 — Real-time processing Monique vulnerably works through a business decision she’s been avoiding.
41:41 — The six components of a healthy decision A practical framework anyone can use.
43:49 — The beauty of making mistakes Why imperfect choices teach us exactly what we need to know.
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Hey Heart and Soul Collective!
This week, with my scratchy “sultry sick-day voice” (as Monique called it), we dove into something I’ve been swirling in lately: decision-making. Not the big glamorous kind—marriage, jobs, cities—but the quieter ones that shape our internal landscape. The ones we postpone because they feel too tangled, too emotional, or too easy to get wrong.
And as we sat together, I realized how much of my own life has been shaped by the moments I avoided choosing. The four years I stayed in a relationship I couldn’t fully commit to. The way clarity finally met me the moment I decided to let go. And the way, on the other side of every choice, there’s this incredible lightness—like opening the door that was waiting for me the whole time.
Monique echoed it beautifully: decision-making isn’t just a moment. It’s a skill. A process. A relationship with your intuition. And sometimes, the most powerful thing we can do is say out loud, “I decide.”
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