Let Them, Let Me: How to Stop Controlling Everything and Start Living Freely
Today, it’s just the two of us—Monique and Mariah—sitting down for one of our favorite kinds of episodes: heart-led, unscripted, and filled with real-life stories from our own lives. We’re diving into one of the buzziest self-help books out there right now: The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins.
And honestly? There’s a reason it’s trending.
This isn’t just a book about letting people be who they are (though that’s part of it). It’s about reclaiming your peace, rediscovering what you actually want, and shifting your energy from controlling everything to trusting yourself enough to surrender. And yeah—it’s hitting us right where we need it.
So today, we’re getting vulnerable. We’re sharing the stories where we tried to let them, the moments where we failed to let them, and what happened when we finally figured out how to let ourselves just be.
“When you finally stop trying to control everything, you create space for surprise and delight.”
In this episode, we discuss:
04:00 – People-pleasing, control, and why this hits home
10:00 – Prom timelines and party-planning meltdowns
16:00 – Family dynamics, birthday chaos, and releasing control
22:00 – The “Let Me” shift: what do you actually want?
27:00 – Redefining holidays, motherhood, and meaning
32:00 – Final thoughts, book recs, and a thank you to our listeners
Hey Heart & Soul Collective!
In this special conversation, just the two of us, we dive into the buzziest book in the self-help world right now: The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins. We’re talking about what this viral concept really means, how it shows up in our own lives, and why it’s struck a chord with so many women craving less stress, less people-pleasing, and a whole lot more inner peace.
We open up about prom timelines, birthday party control spirals, and the emotional journey of being moms, business owners, and recovering overfunctioners. This episode is all about learning to let people be who they are—and learning how to give yourself the same permission.
Whether you’re in a season of setting boundaries, breaking old patterns, or simply trying to chill out—this one’s for you.
Resources & Links:
📕 The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins
🎧 Listen to Mel’s podcast for more real-life tools
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